Monthly Archives: April 2011

If you want to be happy, stop trying to be perfect

Ten reasons why being a perfectionist is harmful to your happiness. Perfection doesn’t exist, so you are chasing an impossible ideal. You are always disappointed with yourself because you can’t reach your impossible, idealistic goals. You fail to appreciate the good … Continue reading

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It doesn’t always have to feel good.

I’m not feeling very happy.  My day has not been a bad one, but it hasn’t been great either.  I worked hard on what I said I’d do but put far too much energy into making the ‘right’ decisions, and as a … Continue reading

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Perfectionism: A definition.

Today I am going to share Brene Brown’s definition of perfectionism with you.  She talks about ‘shame, judgment and blame’ as being the emotions that perfectionists want to avoid and which drives their need to seem perfect to others. Perfectionism … Continue reading

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Happiness = Acceptance

  Carrying on from my Tibetan Monk  post, I want to say a bit more about acceptance because it is such an important element of overcoming perfectionism. As I’ve said previously, the thing about perfectionism is that it makes you … Continue reading

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Who wants to be a Tibetan Monk?

The idea of responding appropriately to my emotions has always haunted me. Why can’t I control my temper? Why do I get so frustrated and irritated with my children – who I love and cherish with all my heart?  I … Continue reading

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