Category Archives: Failure

Family Project Update

Well, the chaos of the holidays and the start of school term have taken their toll on me, and I have to admit that I haven’t kept focussed on our Family Project as much as I’d hoped. However, despite my lack … Continue reading

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Going Backwards

Ok, I might as well make it official.  I’m having a relapse.  I have taken a few (hundred?) steps backwards towards my old perfectionist self.  The one small sliver of a silver lining is the fact that I haven’t travelled all … Continue reading

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My Perfectionist Mum Mindset

My Perfectionist Mum Mindset says: To be a great mum, I need to do x, y, and z. I know what the perfect mum I’d like to be looks like, in my head, and I’ve got loads and loads of ideas on how to make … Continue reading

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Forgiveness and Love? How can I?

Last night my 6 year old daughter had a tantrum lasting from 10.30pm until 3am.  She couldn’t cope with going to sleep on her own, she said.  I had two choices, she shouted: let her sleep in my room or sleep … Continue reading

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It doesn’t always have to feel good.

I’m not feeling very happy.  My day has not been a bad one, but it hasn’t been great either.  I worked hard on what I said I’d do but put far too much energy into making the ‘right’ decisions, and as a … Continue reading

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Happiness = Acceptance

  Carrying on from my Tibetan Monk  post, I want to say a bit more about acceptance because it is such an important element of overcoming perfectionism. As I’ve said previously, the thing about perfectionism is that it makes you … Continue reading

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Making the Perfect Choice

On Thursday, my daughter was upset. Nothing new in that, but it seemed to go on for longer than normal, and she was very reluctant to talk. The sun was shining, we were all enjoying the gorgeous spring weather….except she … Continue reading

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